How To Get Your Heart Right This Thanksgiving


Thanksgiving is just a few days away and yet if I’m being honest there are days in this season of life when it is just plain hard to be thankful. Shocking, I know. I shouldn’t be saying that to you, I should put on my Patty perfect pastor’s wife hat and pretend to have it all together…but, I just can’t do that anymore. You and I both know that being real with each other is so much healthier than some pretend story of how someone else’s life is more put together than yours. Plus, it is a reality that many can relate to right now.

I can count my blessings, I can try to be positive, but let’s face it–life is hard sometimes and it’s not enough to know that fact in your head, you’ve got to give it time to get your heart. So, what are you supposed to do when you should have a heart of thanksgiving but your heart and your head aren’t talking to each other?

That’s a great question and I’ve found some incredible wisdom for us right here in this verse;

do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God,which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7 ESV

Let’s dig right in because this is just too good to wait on…if we are anxious then chances are we aren’t going to have a heart of thanksgiving, will we? We’ll be, well…anxious. Worried, frazzled, distracted and trying to figure out how to “handle” whatever it is that we are anxious about.

Instead, it says that we should give it –anything and everything, over to God. With prayer and thanksgiving lay it all down by giving it to God. Then, once we do that, we will receive the peace of God…but get this, it guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Right there in Scripture it tells us how to deal with struggling with issues between our heart and head — by giving all our requests (big, small, simple, complicated, you name it) over to God with prayer and thanksgiving and He will give us peace.

Maybe this Thanksgiving you’re struggling with being thankful like I’ve been and you know that you have lots of things to be thankful for, but your head and your heart haven’t been communicating as well as they should…this my friend is for me and for you.

Right this very minute you can start to open the lines of communication between your heart and your head. Stop what you are doing and just start talking to God, maybe even something like this:

Father God, I’ve struggled with this far too long on my own. Forgive me for trying to handle it by myself. I need you to help me with ______ (fill in your needs) so that my head and my heart can rest in the peace that you promise to give. I want to grab hold of Philippians 4:6-7 so that I can be full of your grace and mercy this Thanksgiving. Show me how to be more like you each and every day. Thank you Father, in Jesus name, amen.

This Thanksgiving we really do have a lot to be thankful for–are things going to be perfect, no, but neither are we, but the good news is this…Jesus loves you and that my friend is more than enough of a reason to be thankful.

Hey, if you’re struggling this Thanksgiving with being thankful, then just remember that you aren’t alone. Just in case you need a reminder today I’ve made you an Instagram pic just for you!


Melissa Mashburn

Melissa is a woman who is passionately pursing God every day by taking her everyday, ordinary life and placing it as her offering to Him. With a heart to "keep it real" her life and ministry is all about "Real Women, Real Life, Real Faith" in action. She's an author, speaker, Pastor's Wife, Connections Director at her church, ministry leader and more importantly mom to two adult sons, Nick & Bailey. Melissa has been married to her best friend, her true North, Matt for 22 years, they live and enjoy ministry life in Sunny South Florida.

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  1. This had me tears, actually laughing and crying at the same time. My head and my heart need to meet each other. (Awsome!!) My favorite scrp. Phil:4 . I really needed this, Thank you mam, for your sharing honestly, helps my to realize God knows my struggles and I don’t have to stuff my feelings, but just be honest with God, myself, and others. Just be myself whether others accept me or not. I’m going to print this and frame it if I have to. Blessings!!!

    • Theresa,

      Thank you so much for your sweet comment, I am so glad to see that God stepped in right when you needed to hear from Him most — I love when that happens and give Him all the glory for giving me the words to share.

      Hope you have a beautiful Thanksgiving season!
      ~ Melissa

  2. nice post

  3. I only now had a moment to stop and read this.
    Oh sweet friend, I can relate.
    Thank you for this!
    God Bless!
    Praying for you always!


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