It’s a force that naturally happens. It takes effort to lean away from self and notice others.
Considering others’ perspectives and needs requires sacrifice.
Focusing on self doesn’t take much effort, yet it, too, involves a sort of passive sacrifice. There is things we give up, we miss, when we focus on ourselves. We miss an awareness of the world around us. We miss perspectives that challenge us. We miss a consistent, reliable reality check.
When we become focused on ourselves, we too easily affirm ourselves. Everything makes sense to us because we create our own narrative. Or at least, we begin to believe we do.
But our narrative isn’t the true narrative.
The gravitational pull toward self excludes the possibility of growth. We simply cannot and do not grow on our own. We need something outside, bigger than us. Our stories involve others.
Be sensitive to the gravitational pull toward self. The more you practice, the more sensitive you’ll become, and as your mind or routines become mainly about you, an alarm will sound, challenging you to open your eyes, heart, ears, and hands. Leaning away from the selfish pull creates a resistance, a tension that helps you become stronger. Refuse to be passive, to be weakened.
Lean toward God instead. Let him strengthen you. Let him truth-check you. Let him grow you.
It isn’t going to be comfortable or easy much of the time, but the effort of faith is worth the sacrifice.