Change: we all go through it at some point in our lives and it happens whether we want it to or not. So what do we do when the winds of change start to blow and we simply don’t want things to change?
- Do we stomp our feet like little kids and cross our arms, forbidding change to happen?
- Do we jump on an imaginary surfboard and ride the waves of change like a free spirit?
- Do we go through the motions of change, doing what we gotta do, all the while wondering, “what just happened?”
If you are anything like me, you’ve probably done all three at some point or another in your life. This year though, has been different. This year has been all about change in every single arena of my life.
Okay, so not every single arena. I am still very much happily married, but pretty much everything else has changed and this has proven to be one of the most emotional, gut wrenching, spirit checking, soul searching seasons in my life.
I’ve always pictured myself as an “adventurer” type of person. The one who leads change, blazes new paths, plows right ahead. It wasn’t until everything changed that I realized just how comfortable my life was and how much I liked it that way.
Isn’t that usually the way it is in life? You think things are one way, then quickly realize you were off in your view of reality. This has absolutely been the case for me, and while I wrestle with all the change, I’m slowly starting to let the words from Solomon sink in and really permeate my soul.
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away,a time to tear and a time to mend,a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace. Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 NIV
This change, this new season, is part of God’s plan for my life. It may not make sense to me right now, but I can trust that even when I don’t understand it, God will use it for good.
My role in this season of change is to simply seek Him, lean on Him, and let Him lead the way. Not so easy for a “get it done girl,” I know, but after months of wrestling through this I’ve found it to be the best place to weather the winds of change.
I’m not sure what changes are going on in your life right now, but I’d love to share with you three ways that have helped me in this season of change.
- Stay in the Word — do not neglect spending time in God’s Word, even when you don’t “feel” like it. I know, it’s hard to say/admit that sometimes you may not feel like it, but let’s be honest here. When life is at its toughest it can be hard to even come up for air.
- Find one or two “safe people” — that you can tell all the good, the bad and the ugly to and that will still love you and accept you through it. You know who your safe people are, and if you don’t, then I’d say this –don’t just share with anyone. Make sure they are trusted and true, then pray and ask God to give you a few safe people in this season.
- Find a way to “worship” every day — that can be going on a walk, listening to worship music, going to church, watching/doing Bible studies, etc. Whatever will help you to “see” God’s glory and goodness around you. In this season it’s easy to see all the bad/hard/difficult stuff. Choose to seek out the good and worship each day.
God is good, sweet friend. This is truth. You and I may not understand why things in our lives are changing, but we can trust in the One who is in control and lean on Him in our season of change.
Father God, we trust you. It may not always be easy to go through changes in our lives, but we believe that you work all things together for our good and so we lean into that, Lord, and ask you to do a new thing in our lives. We realize that we may not always see the why on this side of eternity, but we trust you, we love you and we know you are for us and not against us. So, we give this season of change to you, Lord, and ask you to guide us through it. In Jesus’ name, amen.