What do you do when you fall?

I lacked grace. Mercy was nowhere in sight. Instead, I chose to be headstrong, stubborn, and consumed with my own judgements. I was right, my friend knew it, and I certainly knew. In the heat of the moment, I was hell bent on making sure my thoughts were heard. Truth needed to be spoken, right?

Yet, I sounded like nothing more than a clanging cymbal because I lacked love (1 Corinthians 13:1).

As I focused solely on being right, I lost sight of the person standing before me. I diminished her situation, her struggle. I diminished her as I hurled my words at her. Negating the reason she had approached me, the reason the conversation began, I became wrapped in my own knowledge and insights. I puffed myself up to the point I nearly imploded. There she sat in front of me, wincing as I rubbed salt into her already wounded heart.

I can prophecy and move mountains with my faith, but am nothing without love (1 Corinthians 13:2).

While nearly breaking my arm patting myself on the back with how accurate my rebuttal was, I finally paused to look at my friend. Her head hung down. Her shoulders hunched forward as a gentle stream of tears flowed down her cheeks. What had I done? How could I have been so callous, so prideful? Was being right more important than helping her to navigate the situation she faced? Yes, she had made a poor decision, but now, so had I.

Love protects, trusts, hopes, and perseveres (1 Corinthians 13:7), but my words had lacked love.

I had fallen hard, and I had failed miserably. In a moment of need, my friend had come to me. My own pride caused me to miss her need. Bending down, I wrapped my arms around her. I held her closely as we both wept. I whispered “I’m so sorry, please forgive me, forgive me for wanting to be right instead of wanting better for you. I am so sorry.” I sat beside her and asked a few questions, then listened as minutes and hours ticked by, without speaking a word.

Love never fails (1 Corinthians 13:8).

What do you do when you fall?

  1. Admit your mistake. No excuses, no explanations, just admit any wrongdoing.
  2. Apologize. I am sorry. Three words, three powerful words.
  3. Pray. Pray for guidance, for wisdom, for direction, and knowing when to speak and when to listen.
  4. Love. When we are motivated by love, we want the best for them. Our words and actions will follow accordingly.
  5. Forgive yourself. No need to replay every moment and every word. Forgive yourself, learn from it, and move on.

Michelle Discavage

Michelle believes in living passionately, loving deeply and laughing often. She draws encouragement from Psalm 46:10 which says, “Be still and know that I am God.” Michelle lives in Texas with her husband and their daughter, where she is a certified life purpose coach. With a wide smile, a gift of mercy, and a love for writing, Michelle looks for the hand of God in every moment. Her site, “Sparked Living," can be found at www.SparkedLiving.net

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