I don’t need a cheerleader

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Around every corner, the messages are shouted.

You are enough.


You are strong.

Just be you.

You’ve got this.

You are beautiful.

These well meaning sentiments are splashed across social media pages and in the pages of magazines.

May I be honest with you? I am tired of them: all of them. I have grown weary of the “I am woman, hear me roar!” anthem. Many days, I just want the pom-poms to be laid down. All these fancy, pretty posts telling me how strong and wonderful I am are utter fallacy.

Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage—with great patience and careful instruction. (2 Timothy  4:2, NIV)

I know myself. At forty-one years old, I can own up to my flaws. I wear makeup to hide and cover up facial features, and I select clothes to hide areas of my body. Honestly, I would prefer to not “just be me.” In a moment of “just being me,” I yelled at my daughter in the middle of Disney World. The harshness of my tone caused her eyes to fill with tears and her lip to tremble.

Strong? Nope: not me, not then.

I was tired, stressed over the rapid fire questions I was being asked, and completely incapable of handling it. In the crowd, in the constant motion and noise, I lost my mind. Seeing both my daughter’s reaction and the look of surprise on my husband’s face was enough for me to know I don’t got this.

I don’t need a cheerleader to fill me with feel good messages. I need grace and truth to soak every fiber of my being.

The undeserved claps and cheers have become little more than a cacophony, causing my head to spin and my ears to ring. I no longer care for the waving of pom poms and shouts of unearned praise. What I need is love wrapped in truth. I need more Spirit led conversations and less hype. My ears do not need to be tickled. They need to be tuned to Christ.

For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear. They will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths. (2 Timothy 4:3-4, NIV)

You can have your pep rallies. I want to stand in the presence of the Father and learn to commune with Him.

But you, keep your head in all situations, endure hardship, do the work of an evangelist, discharge all the duties of your ministry. (2 Timothy 4:5, NIV)

I would like to link arms with other believers, to encourage one another into all God has for us. I want wisdom to be freely shared rather than spared for fear of hurt feelings. I want us to be a part of the advancement of the Kingdom, to be a part of a generation that cries out to God in worship. May we be made righteous before Him, exhausting ourselves in service to Him. May we stand in awe of His glory.

For I am already being poured out like a drink offering, and the time for my departure is near. I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. Now there is in store for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will award to me on that day—and not only to me, but also to all who have longed for his appearing. (2 Timothy 4:6-8, NIV)

Join me in praying:

Father, thank you for the cross. Thank you for the empty tomb. You are the only living God, the one, true, holy God. You have washed away our sins and invited us to sit at your table. May we begin to decipher your truth from the feel good messages of the world. Help us to stand on the solid rock: on your truth. Guide our feet and help us to discern those who would deceive us. Help us to accept correction and discipline. May we be a people who glorify you in all we say and do. Amen.

Michelle Discavage

Michelle believes in living passionately, loving deeply and laughing often. She draws encouragement from Psalm 46:10 which says, “Be still and know that I am God.” Michelle lives in Texas with her husband and their daughter, where she is a certified life purpose coach. With a wide smile, a gift of mercy, and a love for writing, Michelle looks for the hand of God in every moment. Her site, “Sparked Living," can be found at www.SparkedLiving.net

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