For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man?
If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ. Galatians 1:10 ESV
Do you want everyone to like you?
Do you spend time trying to make sure everyone is happy?
Does it worry or bother you if you think someone doesn’t like you?
Then chances are, my friend, that you are a people pleaser.
Oh, I am right there with you on this one. Honestly, I’m not exactly sure when it started for me but for the most part, I can remember that most of my entire life I’ve wrestled with wanting people to like me.
I guess it was one thing when I was an awkward teenager, or the constant “new girl” in school (yep, went to 3 high schools), but for crying out loud, I’m a grown woman now: what’s the deal?
It wasn’t until the last few years, particularly this last year, that I’ve really started to wrestle with letting this whole people pleaser thing go.
I’m sure I’m not the only one who is or has wrestled with this, so let me share with you what God has been teaching me about what’s wrong with being a people pleaser.
- I’m not being true to who God has called me to be if I’m trying to be something I’m not.
- I am fearfully and wonderfully made. (Psalm 139)
- I am not perfect. (Romans 3:10)
- I can’t make other people like me and it’s okay if they don’t. (Galatians 1:10)
Listen, sweet friend, we can’t be everything to everyone, so why don’t we just try to be the best (insert your name here) we can be for HIM. Because in all reality HE is the only one that it really matters what He thinks of us. Right?
but just as we have been approved by God to be entrusted with the gospel, so we speak, not to please man, but to please God who tests our hearts. 1 Thessalonians 2:4 ESV
Until you and I stop trying to please everyone else and start trying to please God, we will forever be stuck in the cycle of being a people pleaser…and if we’re honest with each other, we really need (and want) to grab hold of this whole “No More People Pleasing!” idea.
So, let’s do it — starting right now!
Say it out loud with me: “I’m done being a people pleaser; I’m ready to be a God pleaser!”
Here are a couple of things you can do get on the road of no more people pleasing:
- Grab your Bible and look up the verses I’ve listed above, then take some time to physically write them out some place where you can see them a few times each day.
- Get out your journal and write out what you hope to accomplish by letting go of your people pleasing ways and what you hope God does when you become a God pleaser.
- Spend some time in prayer, asking God to release you from the need to get approval from others and to show you how to earnestly seek your approval from Him.
Sweet friend, together with God’s grace, peace, strength, wisdom and discernment we can take a step of releasing the stuff that holds us back (Hebrews 12:1) and run toward being the women He has created us to be.
What about you?
- Do you wrestle with being a people pleaser?
- If so, what do you do to help fight against that?
- If not, then how can you be an encouragement to those who do?
Here’s an Instagram sized reminder just for you…enjoy!