Lessons From An Encourager

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I recently met a tremendously encouraging woman. Well, I haven’t actually “met” her. We’ve never talked or had coffee. I’m not even sure what state she lives in. Still, she is my encourager.  She encourages me with a few simple words…

“Great Post.”

“Thank you for this.”

Or my favorite:

“Bless you, dear one.”

She simply lets me know that someone out in cyberspace is reading these words God puts in my heart. I didn’t think much of it, other than it was really nice, until her comments on my blog stopped. After a few days I realized that I missed her. A week or so passed and I realized I missed her a lot.

We are in the same circles on social media and we have a mutual friend, so I did a little poking around and discovered that she’s been sick…for a while…a long while…as in the whole time she’s been sending me words of encouragement.

I’m amazed.

Here’s a lady who is having a really hard time and she is so full of Christ’s love that it seems to spill out of her and splash all over the rest of us. Don’t you love people like that? Don’t they amaze you? Leave you scratching your head and wondering how they stay so positive? Make you wish you had whatever they have that keeps them from having a bad case of the grumbles?

I’ve noticed a few things about my encourager friend. She talks about Jesus and almost never talks about herself or her ailments. She is focused on Christ, on the hope of heaven, and on God’s presence in her life. She trusts God’s plan. She trusts His timing. She doesn’t worry so much about what she wants God to do for her, but rather focuses on who He is. She sings of her love for Him. She tells of His greatness, His love for her and her love for him.

She reminds me of a quote by AW Tozer:

As God is exalted to the right place in our lives, a thousand problems are solved all at once.

And wisdom from Proverbs:

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. Proverbs 3:5 (NIV) 

Today, I am more thankful than ever for my encourager/friend. Turns out she was in the hospital for a little while. She is back at the keyboard now and as encouraging as ever, but even in her absence she encouraged me. Her absence made me realize that too often I am focused on everything but God. Her absence also made me realize that sharing the love of Christ doesn’t have to be difficult. A word of encouragement doesn’t have to be profound or poetic. I often make sharing Christ too complicated. Sometimes it just takes a few words of encouragement, and I let those opportunities slip by because I overthink it.

How about you?

Are you focused on things you need God to do or are you focused on WHO God is?

Are you focused on obstacles and troubles or are you focused on Jesus Christ, Savior, Redeemer, Restorer, Lover of your soul?

Are you missing opportunities to share the love of Christ and to be an encourager because you overthink it? Why not act on God’s nudges make a phone call,  send a text or a note just to let someone know they are being thought of and prayed for?

Pray with me?

Father God,

Thank you for sending people to encourage me and to share your love with me. I don’t always see it because I am so focused on everything else in my life. Forgive me for that. Help me to focus on You. Help me to trust you and to leave my troubles at the cross. Help me to trust your timing and your plan for my life. I love you Lord. Fill me with your love so that it splashes all over the people in my life. Let me know who in my life needs an encouraging word today and give me the courage to reach out to them.


Kris Williams

Kris is a pastor’s wife and working mom of 2 who is passionate about sharing the love of Christ with the women He puts in her path. She says that she is “living, breathing, walking, talking proof that God is very much in the business of radically changing lives.” She will tell you that God completely changed everything about her when she met Jesus Christ. Like many women, she spent most of her life looking for “something” to make her feel secure, fill the emptiness in her heart, and give her life meaning and purpose and she tried lots of “somethings” before embracing the One who would finally quiet her restless soul. Her life is a story of redemption, healing, and restoration and she believes everyone she meets should have the opportunity to meet Christ and choose whether or not to follow Him. She battled Laryngeal cancer in 2009 and again in 2011. While she does not wish to travel that valley a 3rd time, she sees her cancer journey as a gift because it taught her to completely trust and fully lean on Christ. While unable to speak, she discovered the gift of writing and with it an entirely new way to share her love for Christ. Today, she is completely healed and, while she regained the use of her voice, still very much enjoys sharing her love for Christ (and His love for us) through written word.

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  1. bless you dear for this beautiful post

  2. Nice reminder!

  3. Amen. Every sweet word of encouragement is a treasure. Add to it a revelation upon absence and the friendship thereafter. Just more evidence of God work. In. Every. Little. Thing.

  4. Wow. I was happy to read this post re your encourager. There are fewer and fewer people who seem to encourage ~ especially to strangers. Hope lives on.

  5. Thank you all for visiting and taking time to comment. I honestly think that we are all so “connected” now, we just don’t think to stop to offer a word of encouragement. It is so easy to use all the resources at our fingertips (FB, Twitter, email, text) to drop a quick line to say “Hey, I’m thinking of you today” and yet, we don’t take advantage of the opportunity. Everyone is fighting a battle. I am so thankful for this sweet person who encourages me to keep fighting with her quick reminders that she is there!

    • Thank you for sharing your stories!!!! I will remember this Going forward I’ve been told I’m an encourager but not lately! This helps me to remember the value in what words can mean to someone!

  6. Wonderful post!


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