Maybe insecurity isn’t an issue for you. But I’m betting that if you clicked on this post, it nags at one corner of your heart. Don’t must of us live under some weight of insecurity?
It’s the nature of fallen humanity. There’s a fine line between being confident and arrogant. A tightrope between knowing there are areas you need to improve versus focusing only on your weaknesses. We often don’t measure up, whether to our expectations of ourselves or to other’s expectations of us. Yet when we are successful it goes to our head and pride can so easily seep in.
Question: can you name five things that you like about yourself?
Second question: what are the five (specific) things that define who you are?
Are your answers the same? Which question was harder to answer? Do you actually believe your answers at the core of your being or are they your answers simply because you know they should be true or others say they are?
It can be convicting to make a list of who you are, what brings you life, and what makes you, you. Not in a vague, Jesus-loves-me kind of way, but in a very tangible, specific, way of articulating the uniquely defining pieces of your identity. Not in a prideful way either. Because at the end of the day, a correct view of our identity is rooted in who we are, and who we are has nothing to do with us or some innate goodness. A correct view of our identity points directly and unequivocally back to Jesus. If you have trouble writing this list then consider going through letters of encouragement that others have written, read over Scriptures that speak truth of who God is and how He views you. Get rid of the lies and re-fill those places with truth.
Who am I? I am. . .
Fill in the blank for yourself. Continue filling it in. Go deeper than the Bible study answer. You are a child of the Living God, but within that you are a unique, individual, gifted, called, purposed, and redeemed human being. What makes you, you? Why did He make you, you? Remind yourself of the details of who He is and how that defines who you are.
The point is that I am, because I’m created in the image of the Great I AM.
“God said to Moses, “I am who I am. This is what you are to say to the Israelites: ‘I AM has sent me to you.’” ” Exodus 3:14
Let me say that again:
I am –enough, loved, genuine, wise, compassionate, loving, pensive, open, thoughtful, fun, passionate, gentle, sweet, unique, creative, relational– because He is and I’m created in His image. I don’t see myself correctly when I’m not seeing Him correctly. And vice versa. I am a broken, fragmented, incomplete reflection of Christ’s nature, which means I have a heck of a lot of areas to grow. But nothing spurs that growth on more than the penetrating knowledge of the love and grace of Jesus and the deep confidence that produces.
There’s too much insecurity because there are too many lies. They are in what we hear, what we see, and what we think. All the things we are not, all the things we should’ve done different, all the places we’ve failed. Jesus doesn’t call us a failure, so what makes us think we can call ourselves one (John 15:15, Romans 15:7, 2 Corinthians 5:17)? Jesus doesn’t condemn us, so why do we think it’s okay to condemn ourselves (Romans 8:1)?
“For he chose us in Christ before the foundation of the world that we may be holy and unblemished in his sight in love. . .in him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace.” (Ephesians 1:4, 7)
None of that sounds like the lectures the culture, the Enemy, and my own expectations put on me. None of that fits with my insecurities. Yes, if you walk with Christ then you are called to active obedience and sanctification. Yes, that means uncomfortable growth and humility. Yes, that means conviction, accountability, and forgiveness. But let’s not live under added weight of insecurity because we are afraid we are disappointing Jesus. Let’s be reminded of who we truly are so that He gets the glory for being seeing as the ultimate I Am.
I am His and because He is. The great I Am tells me who I am.