I Just Don’t Care

One of my dearest friends is 11 years younger than I am. She just turned 30 years old and is a terrific wife and momma. But, when I met her, she was 20 and teaching my oldest son in a preschool setting. She's in my inner circle, and I trust her immensely.

Her name is Nicole. And she does not care.

For nearly four years, my inner circle and I have met on Wednesday mornings for a time of encouragement, Bible Study, food and fellowship. Our conversations can stem from anything and everything. You name it, we've discussed it. Not kiddin'. We are tight.

And one particular morning when one of the gals was sharing some struggles with a person in her life, Nicole said, "I just don't care." What was funny is that Nicole is very caring…always one to send a text to see how you are or to encourage you with her words when she thinks you did a good job or are looking cute that day. So, to hear her say she just did not care was rather odd.

She went on to tell us that choosing to not care about stuff has freed her to care about the most important stuff. The old Nicole would get bent out of shape about the way someone was dressing their child or if they were handling their finances poorly. It got to the point that it was crippling her and that eventually affected her family life.

Today, Nicole is incredibly caring but she cares about the right things. She homeschools her children but doesn't care if you do or not. She and her husband, Tim, live debt free but won't judge you if you live above your means. She cares about her friends and loving them and sharing Jesus with those who don't know Him. She cares about her family and wants to be the best wife and mom possible. 

She simply lets things go and instead prays for people daily.

Nicole has learned an art that the rest of us need to learn: Judging people is not our job. We get so mad and frustrated at people and we can do absolutely nothing about it. We can't change the way our sister spends her money or how our cousin raises her children. We can't change how half of the people in the world drive and stress us out because they are trying to get over in front of us.

So today, I'd like to challenge you to not care so that you can care about things and people worth caring about.

Cindy Beall

Cindy Beall is a writer and mentor to women. She and her husband, Chris, speak openly about their difficult journey through Chris’ infidelity and pornography addiction that nearly destroyed their marriage and ministry. Through God’s grace they have inspired thousands of couples and have returned to full-time ministry where Chris serves as the Oklahoma City Campus Pastor at LifeChurch.tv. Cindy’s first book, Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken, released in August, 2011, with Harvest House Publishers. www.cindybeall.com

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