{Wordfilled Wednesday} What does overflow have to do with relationships?

When teenage girls ask you questions like…

How do you have a relationship with God?

What can we do to have healthy relationships with others?

But how do you balance your desires for what you want from relationships with what is the reality?

How do you love and care for someone whose beliefs conflict with yours?

What should you do so that you can love others completely without losing self?

…you’re left stunned and desperate for God to show you the answers!

These are honest questions that need a truly authentic answer, don’t you think!

So I turned to the Lord, seeking Him for a clarity and wisdom, especially when I struggle with many of these issues myself.  There is no denying the conflict I’ve experienced in relationships over differing beliefs.  My expectations of others has often left me in a relationship quandary.  I’m sure the same has happened to you.

Maybe you’re struggling in knowing how to draw closer to the Lord and deepen your relationship with Him? 

Maybe you feel your effort to love others is a death to yourself, and not in the Biblical sense of it all?

Even though we might be ten, twenty, thirty or more years older than this group of thoughtful teens, we don’t necessarily have all the answers, right?

We struggle to love the unlovable. 

We are challenged by those who disagree with our beliefs.  We unknowingly have unrealistic standards for others. 

Most of us are still making sense of how to have a relationship with God and everyone else.

But our lack of understanding isn’t an excuse for pursuing God’s wisdom and ways to apply the Word so that we can truly experience transformed relationships.  It may be hard to change, but it is not impossible.

While I don’t have all the answers on how to make our relationships better, God was incredibly gracious in my pursuit of His Truth, and offered a fresh new perspective:

  1. We CRAVE relationships, because that is how we were made!
  2. We were CREATED for relationship, especially with God through faith in Jesus Christ as our Savior.
  3. We were also created for COMMUNITY through being in relationships with others for our mutual benefit and God’s glory.
  4. We will face CHALLENGES in our relationships because of the effect of sin.
  5. We will have to CORRECT our thinking, implement boundaries, and apply the instructions found in the Word to improve our relationships.

What does this all mean?  Well, I unpack it in full in the latest Topics & Truth free download at More to Be, which you can find here.  But in essence, it comes down to this truth, as captured in 1 Thessalonians 3:12: 

Our relationships desperately need an overflow of God’s love, which fills us up first through our faith in Christ, in order for His love to pour out on those around us. 

Apart from Christ at work in us, our relationships will never experience the grace, hope, peace, and joy that God intended.  We will never be enough for others. We will never have all the answers.  We will never be able to master our relationships.  But we can experience relationships transformed as we surrender our lives to God and allow Him access to our hearts.

When we yield our lives to the Lord, with a willingness for the Holy Spirit to lead and guide our thoughts, words, and actions, He will work in us and through us.  Only then will our relationship with God and others be marked by His love and grace.

How do I know this is true?

Because the Lord did it for me, and so that’s how I answered their questions.  I gave them the 5Cs of relationships, but more importantly, I challenged them to give their lives to God and let Christ rule in their hearts. It changed my life and ALL my relationships. 

Has it changed yours, too?

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Elisa is a trained biblical life coach, mentor, and speaker passionate about equipping women to experience authentic life change for the sake impacting the next generation. She leads More to Be, a ministry committed to raising up mentors and providing resources for tweens, teens, twenty-somethings, and women. Elisa is also the author of Impact My LIfe: Biblical Mentoring Simplified. She considers her first calling as wife to Stephen and mother to her house-full of children. Her favorite days begin on the porch with the Lord and end on the beach with her family and friends. Connect with Elisa at www.elisapulliam.com

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  1. What a great illustration of such an important truth. Something I try to share with all my grandkids as often as possible. Thank you for a great reminder on this lovely Word-Filled Wednesday.

    • Kaye, I love thinking of you interacting with your grandchildren and praise God for your willing investment. What a gift to them!

  2. “Apart from Christ at work in us, our relationships will never experience the grace, hope, peace, and joy that God intended.” What bottom-line truth! Thank you for this post — and the link-up!

    • A truth that struck me, too, as God reveals this lesson in such powerful ways as I mentor teen girls!

  3. This is just wonderful Lisa. I love your C’s for relationship and so very true. We must first fill our tanks up with God’s love so that is just overflows, pours out of us to all people that we come in contact with. Such truth in this post. Thank you 🙂 Have a wonderful day!

    • Thanks, Kathleen, for taking the time to leave a comment and let me know this blessed you. To God be the glory!

  4. Really beautiful.


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