Where are you looking for approval?

Just tell me that you love me, okay?  Just tell me that I make you happy.”

“Yes, I love you, good girl.  Can’t you tell from the way I stroke you or the way I scratch behind your ears?”

I have this conversation with my beloved dog at least once a day.  Her pleading eyes betray a questioning heart.

Are you sure I’m okay?  Have I done anything to displease you?  I mean I know you tell me over and over again but…. but… can you tell me again?  Do you love me?  Do you?”

“Yes, I love you.  How many times must I tell you?”

Something in this exchange feels too familiar.  I think I understand my dog so well because I ask the same questions. Yes, that is hard to admit. Even harder to admit is that while my head knows I need only the nod of my Master, I still find myself seeking approval from others.  I look for a scratch behind the ears from my husband, a pat on the head from a friend, comments from blog readers.

And my Father weeps.  And the heart of my Savior breaks again.  And the gentle voice of the Holy Spirit cracks with disappointment.

“Are We not enough?”


With heart repentant I stand before Him, the One Who stamped my life with His blood, once for all time.


Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes.  Ephesians 1:4 NLT

Have you found yourself hungry for approval, seeking compliments and pats on the head, deaf to the voice of your Heavenly Father as He speaks His love over you again and again?

Help us to remember that we have true approval in your eyes Lord, the only approval we ever really need, as we allow You to heal these fragile hearts in ways that only You can.

Keep living and loving for His glory,


  1. Oh Karin. You are so right about this. Thank you!


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