God Understands the Tears of a Wife

Psalms 34:18
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. NIV

I spent some time recently talking with a married gal whose heart is broken. She’s in a marriage that has been more than a little bit painful. She married a man who is not a believer. She knew it wasn’t the best of circumstances, but she loved him and felt that he loved her deeply enough to eventually want her God also. He’s a good man, but still a man that does not love the Lord like she does.

I was deeply concerned when she wanted to marry him but she would not hear from anyone who did not support her marriage. And though she now sees the mistake she made, this is no time for blame. She’s hurting and needs comfort, not correction. After all, I’m certainly not going to tell her to “undo” her marriage. She is married and it is God’s heart to see it work.

If you are hurting in your marriage, I want to encourage you that the Lord sees your tears. He knows the pain of a broken heart and is near to it.

Maybe your spouse has another woman or maybe pornography has gripped his life and it breaks your heart.

The Bible says that God is a jealous God. By that it means that He knows the pain of someone’s heart embracing the love of another. Like a jealous lover, He wants our affection to be given to Him alone and no other gods. He understands the depth of the pain of betrayal.

No matter why you are hurting, God has the healing and love that you so desperately long for.

But I also shared with her how much the Lord loved her and desires that she find the hope and healing she longs for in His arms. Sometimes our wounds just need time to heal and they need us to slow down long enough to let the Lord apply His love and healing power to our hearts.

Before we are wives, we are daughters. Daughters of the King of Kings.

You are precious in God’s eyes. Failures and all. His love for you extends beyond the expanse of the universe. He created everything we see with YOU in mind. He adores you. He’s your biggest fan. He wants to be your hiding place.

Psalms 32:7
You are my hiding place; You will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance. NIV

If you are hurting today, friend, go to that hiding place. Get yourself alone with the only One who is able to bring true comfort to your brokenness.

Psalms 147:3
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. NIV

It’s very difficult to bind up the wound of someone who won’t stop moving. Take some time alone with God. He’s just waiting to wrap healing His arms around you.

I also feel the need to emphasize that I am not encouraging a woman to stay in a marriage that is dangerous to her or her children. Please be safe and get professional help in these situations. Submission does not include abuse.

Sue Cramer

Founder of Praise and Coffee ministry and Magazine. A wife, mom, girlfriend and coffee drinker who loves the Lord.

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  1. As I re-read this I feel that I want to emphasize that this post is more about the heart of a woman and the healing God brings and not about whether or not you stay in a situation of verbal abuse or adultery.

    I know I said it at the end but want to remind you that the heart of this post is to the healing of you as a woman 🙂


  2. Amen, so precious.

  3. Please, please pray for me. My husband, whom I love, has committed adultery on me. It is at least the second time in our almost 25 years as husband & wife… He has cried bitter tears, & I believe he is sincerely sorry—but my heart is crushed to powder. He is backslid on God & bound by different spirits; this is the most piercing & difficult of all to endure. I have came back home to him but oh, how badly I’m bleeding! I need help so badly…


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