Don’t Throw Away Your Confidence (giveaway)


“So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded. You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised.” Hebrews 10:35-36 (NIV)

One night I was cleaning our kitchen and found this little rubber thingy on our countertop. It wasn’t until after I threw it away that I realized it was the power button for our TV remote control. As I dug through the trash to find it, I regretted how quickly I’d thrown it away.

Then, as I reached to pull it out, I sensed God showing me that’s how easily I throw away my confidence—without recognizing it.

It’s usually very subtle. Sometimes I’ll be thinking about something I want to do or sense God calling me to, and a feeling of uncertainty comes over me and whispers to my heart: You can’t do that. You’re not good enough. Out of the blue, I’ll just get that awful, insecure feeling.

Too many times in the past I’ve gone along with it, tossing my confidence into the trash without even thinking.

For years, I didn’t tell anyone about my lack of confidence because I figured if I told them all the reasons I doubted myself, they’d see my flaws and agree with me. Honestly, I was convinced I was the only one who struggled with doubt.

However, I didn’t call it doubt. Maybe you don’t either. Sometimes I called it worry—worry that I was going to disappoint someone, worry that I might make a mistake and get criticized for it, worry that I would start something but not be able to finish.

Other times I’d call it fear—fear that I wouldn’t measure up, fear that I’d look stupid, fear that I’d look prideful thinking I could do something special for God. What I’ve realized over the past several years is that these feelings may end up as fear or worry, but their source is self-doubt.

Looking back, I see a pattern in my thinking that led to the pattern of my doubting.

As a child I thought I wasn’t worth keeping. My insecurity kept me from riding the carousel at an amusement park, because I doubted my dad would wait for me. In school, I thought I wasn’t smart enough and avoided great opportunities that came with the risk of failure. Even as a young bride, I doubted my worth in my husband’s eyes. Although he gave me no reason to fear, our newlywed memories include a lot of arguments about trust.

What about you? Do you ever question your worth as a woman? How does it affect your relationships with you agree with the whispers of self-doubt and throw you’re your confidence?

The next time we’re tempted to throw away our confidence, let’s ask God to help us throw away our insecurities instead. To get us started, here are a few promises we can hold onto, as we learn to depend on His truth for the security we need and the confidence we long for:

  • When self-doubt whispers, “I can’t do that. I’m going to fail and look foolish.” Throw away that lie away and hold onto this truth (even say it out loud): “The Lord is my helper, I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?” (Hebrews 13:6, NIV 1984)
  • When self-doubt whispers, “I’ll never change.” Throw away that lie away and claim this truth: “For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in [me] will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 1:6, NASB)
  • When self-doubt whispers, “This is too hard for me. I don’t have what it takes to…” Throw away that lie away and hold onto this truth: “No, in all these things [I am] more than a [conqueror] through him who loved [me].” (Romans 8:37, NIV)

Lord, I want to stop throwing away confidence and start throwing away my insecurities instead. Help me replace my doubts with the assurance of your promises. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Give-Aways & Freebies


This devotion is from Renee’s new book, A Confident Heart: How to Stop Doubting Yourself & Live in the Security of God’s Promises. Enter to win one of 4 copies she’s giving away by sharing your thoughts in the comments below.

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Renee Swope is co-host of Proverbs 31 Ministries’ international radio program and author of “A Confident Heart.” But her favorite titles are wife to J.J. and mom to Joshua (16), Andrew (13) and Aster (2).  Renee’s invites you to visit her new website where you’ll find more FREE resources.

 

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Jenifer Jernigan

Jenifer Jernigan is a wife and mom of 3 whose deepest longing is to please Jesus, only Jesus. Growing up as the daughter of a pastor, she knew church but she didn’t know Jesus. After years of rebellion and heartache, Jenifer found freedom and healing through God’s Word. Now, as founder of Diving Deeper Ministries, her passion is to equip others to d.i.v.e. (define~investigate~visualize~embrace) head first into God's Word so that they, too, can experience freedom and abundant living. Her first book Dive Deeper: Finding Deep Faith Beyond Shallow Religion is part of Thomas Nelson’s Inscribed Studies collection. Join Jenifer at www.jeniferjernigan.com.

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36 Comments

  1. Being adopted, I have always held the self-doubt that I was lovable, wantable. After all, my own mother didn’t love me enough to keep me–who else possibly could? My adoptive mother was very emotionally and psychologically abusive, adding to my feelings of unworthiness. Forty-four years later I still struggle, trying to accept and truly believe that God does indeed love me, every bit of me, exactly as I am. Confidence comes and goes in waves. I stay at home, taking care of my family, because I fear I won’t succeed out in the real world, that I won’t be able to successfully do even the things I love–painting, writing…People would see me as the unwanted, unlovable person I was born to be. So I hide at home instead.

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    • I understand this. I was adopted also. Although my childhood was great there is always the unwanted feeling. After my mom passed away it seemed to grow.

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  2. What a wonderful devotional and so dear to my heart right now. We met just last night to start a Wednesday night children’s program at my (small) church. I teach so adding another activity to our week was worrying me. I need to trust that God will give me what I need and help my family even when we don’t get enough sleep! Thank you

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  3. This is something I have always struggled with!! And something I have tried to overcome with little success. It’s a daily battle!!

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  4. If you had ask me if I lacked confidence, I probably would have told you no. However, I didn’t put confidence, or lack there of with doubt or insecurities. Weird, I know. I am hanging on to the truth that God doesn’t call the able; He enable’s the called!!
    Thank you being a vessel!

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    • “God doesn’t call the able, He enables the called” I LOVE THIS. THANK YOU!!!

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  5. Confidence is given by God and so hard to hang on to!! I am teaching Beth Moore’s So Long Insecurity to a group of single again women and we all struggle with that. At this point in our lives, we have been through divorce, death of a spouse and wonder where we fit now.Praise God that we can know and have security in our Lord and Savior! Thank you for this devotion and reminding us that in Christ we are a new creature!

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  6. I have always doubted myself and my abilities. Fortunately, God gave me a husband who encourages me, and believes in me more than I do. I still have times of self-doubt, and I know that those times have put a strain on our marriage, but I am learning in so many ways that this is not how God sees me!

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  7. How true this is! Thanks for the reminder this morning, and for the chance to win!

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  8. I too have always struggled with confidence. Thanks for the chance to win the book.

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  9. this post is awesome. Shook me to the core. GUILTY! GUILTY! GUILTY! I would really love to get a copy of this book. So nice to not feel alone with this battle! Thank you for sharing your heart.

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  10. I struggle with this daily. Being a first generation christian, I struggle with the confidence that God could love me when nobody else seems to.

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  11. oh, how I needed this today! hearing my (soon-to-be-ex) husband strip away every ounce of self confidence I had grown for the first 32 years of my life has been so awful. There are days when I wonder if I am even worthy of getting out of bed. And yet, the Lord loves us through all of that and can show us how to be confident in HIM and therefore in what we can do WITH HIM.

    Thank you for this reminder today. What an encouragement to my heart.

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  12. Wow, this really helped me right now, God is amazing! I just got the first grade in one of my classes, I didn’t pass. I trowed my confidence away since I finished the exam a week ago, I was telling myself the whole week that I was going to fail, because this is my first year in med school and everything is so different and new. I need to ask God for confidence, the problem was that I didn’t know how, now I have an idea of how to start. Thank you.

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  13. I would love to win this book… I need it so much right now….Lost here…

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  14. Confidence (or lack thereof!) is a daily struggle. I think most women battle it silently! I would love to win a copy of this book.

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  15. It seems every time I turn around I am doubting my ability to do something. Most recent has been homeschooling. I’ve had to do a lot of praying through the past year. Thank you for the chance to win this book!

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  16. Thanks for this post–so glad I have your devotions delivered to my inbox. It’s great to find the encouragement. God works out the timing so that so many of them speak to me right where I am.

    When I focus on my limitations and wonder how God can use me and how I can contribute anything of worth in this life, I sometimes doubt myself. But I’m thankful that God’s word reminds me to throw about any doubt I have about His ability to use me. Thanks for today’s post–it put into words the lessons God’s been walking me through.

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  17. I wonderful reminder for me this morning. I will be printing out this devotion and reading it on a regular basis!

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  18. This devo came at the perfect time for me. I am currently employed in a good job, but have been feeling a little restless. So I took a giant leap and called someone about the possibility of working for them. I know I can do that job without much difficulty, and it hopefully be more money. However, I had to leave a voice mail message for the recruiting lady, and as soon as I hung up, I began doubting why I had even called. I would have chickened out of calling completely if my husband didn’t stand right behind me to make the call in the first place!!!! So thanks so much for this very needed boost of Godly-confidence!

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  19. Oh, this devotion was so good!!! I want to throw away the lies instead of throwing away my confidence. I have Renee’s book on my wishlist so I really hope I win. Thanks!

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  20. This is so me. Growing up I never saw myself as worth it, being called stupid and fat and lazy and all the other horrible things you could think of. God is really really working on me on my confidence right now. I have seen this book but never had the money to buy it. God is calling me to be a Pastor. I’ve spoke several times in my church and am being descipled right now to be a Children’s Pastor. This is such a high calling, one that I don’t see myself as worthy of doing. What if I make a mistake, what if I make someone stumble, I’m a work in progress what makes me think I would ever do such an important job like this. Confidence is so important and if I truly believe God has called me to do this what makes me think He’s going to leave me high and dry only to fail on my own. I can do all things through Him who gives me strength and I can do this with God’s help. Great post, thank you for speaking my heart today. I would love to be entered to win this book. thanks ~ Mandy

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  21. I struggle with this daily and have found your posts inspiring. I recently ordered the book but am reading several other things at the same time, so I haven’t really absorbed it like I should. I sat down to read through emails after getting frustrated in the kitchen with something I was trying to do. I realized that God is whispering in 1 ear while S

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  22. I also struggle with this. My keyboard is ‘ot cooperati’g–guess which key wo’t work! Several words have the letter so this makes little se’se. Sorry. Be blessed & thx!

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  23. We recently moved, and with all the changes going on, I’ve been doubting that I can handle it. Thank you for the reminder that God will finish the work He began, that I am a conquerer, and that God is my helper!

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  24. Thank you, I needed to read this today. I’ve got a situation in front of me that I believe can be a huge blessing and a wonderful thing but my own fear has been holding me back. My lack of confidence makes me hesitant. Reading this was a nice reminder.

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  25. Even at the ripe old age of 61, I sometimes feel inadequate….being in full time ministry as a pastor’s wife, I have been used by God and abused sometimes by church “mess”…..but the reminder that God is always in control…well, I hang on to that!

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  26. I so remember those feelings you chronicled. Learning who I was to The Father changed everything – I’m a daughter of the King! I still battle self-doubts – but I see it coming and take care of it, reminding myself of who I am to him.

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  27. I love the scripture verses you have included. I’ll be grabbing on to these when self-doubt hits. Thank you.

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  28. I especially struggle with confidence when it comes to my children, in those moments where I lose my cool and don’t manage to show them gentleness and self-control. I hear that little voice telling me what a failure I am as a mom and how much I must be screwing up my kids when I get angry and raise my voice. And yet my kids love me even when I’m not perfect, and I thank God for that!

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  29. Thank you for this giveaway! I could definately use this.

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  30. This giveaway couldn’t come at a better time. My confidence is at a -100 this week. Thanks for giveaway.

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  31. This devo really spoke to my heart….THANKS. I would love to win the book; have heard so many good things about it.

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  32. After dealing all my life with a dad who treated me like I was worthless, a slob, and like I was never good enough for him no matter how hard I tried, and in turn I have ended up dealing with never feeling good enough for God or others. I have tried replacing satan’s lies with God’s truth in my heart, but in the last few years I’ve struggled again since I got married, am recently starting out as a new pastor’s wife since my husband became a pastor, and now that I’m not working out of the home and just had a baby girl who depends on me, I’m struggling even more with my self-worth. It doesn’t help that I’m just starting to be at the point where I’m ready to admit that I’m also dealing with postpartum depression since the birth of my baby 2 months ago, and especially since we moved to this new community where we know no one. I feel so overwhelmed and have been looking for a book to help me. Maybe this is what I’ve been looking for.

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  33. Being compared to my cousins and even my brothers, I have low self-esteem while I was growing up. I sure am glad God is there to love me and aceept me just as I am.

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  34. I have seen this book everywhere and cannot wait to ge my hands on these truths tucked within. Talk about reaching all women right where we are.

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