You’re Not Doing Enough!

Ladies who lead: do you ever get that panicky feeling?
The one that makes you feel like you’re not doing enough and you’ve become completely inadequate in ministry?

The thoughts go something like this:

Do you see what that ministry/church or women’s group is doing?
Why aren’t you doing that?
They are so far ahead of you–you’d better hurry and catch up!

OR…
If you don’t stay plugged in to every possible form of social media, your ministry is down the tubes, Girl!

OR…
You’d better blog more!

OR…
You’d better get a book written and published soon or people will completely forget about you and probably think you are not even relevant anymore!

AND, most importantly, get yourself to one of those conferences across the country! Those women are connecting without you and you will never fit into their groups if you don’t meet them face to face: and you know what that means…your ministry is done! Caput. Ashes to ashes, dust to dust…give it up…your ministry can not thrive if you are not going to pour your every last minute into it.

Please tell me I’m not alone with these thoughts. Please…please…don’t leave me sitting by myself in the lunch room, Girls! Tell me you’ve dealt with these things too.

And yet, I dare say, we all know better.

But sometimes we just let those voices scream in our heads until we cry “uncle” and run to the Reese’s Cups for comfort.

Girls, let’s get our focus on!

God does not push, He guides.

The pushing is either the enemy or our own insecurity. Usually the latter.

My feelings of insecurity can send me reeling down a path of busyness that leads to complete burnout if I’m not careful.

The only way I have found to stop this vicious cycle is to pull my head and heart back to the Father. Remember that the most important thing about me is that I’m His daughter and He loves me deeply. The things I do don’t define me. His love for me defines me.

All ministry should be an outflow of that love and relationship. It should never be the foundation for our lives.

So if I never blog again, or write a book, or end up at one of those conferences, it’s okay. That does not bring completeness in my life. His love does that.

Ephesians 5:1-2 Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love. (NIV)

You are a dearly loved daughter, walk in that love today.

Sue Cramer

Founder of Praise and Coffee ministry and Magazine. A wife, mom, girlfriend and coffee drinker who loves the Lord.

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17 Comments

  1. I heard those words for years…not only in my head but from the pulpit! For years I was asking the Lord “what is it I’m supposed to do” all the while I was doing it, raising 5 beautiful children and being a wife to my husband! But the pressures I allowed to come into my head! I know one thing (now), if the Lord wants me to do something different, He knows how to get my attention. Thanks for the blog. Awesome.

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    • Thanks for the input Diane, I agree, he totally knows how to get our attention 🙂
      Sue

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  2. Great post! Sometimes it’s hard to get ahead of those voices. We have to keep reminding ourselves daily to take those thoughts captive and give them to our Father to transform. Be Blessed!

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    • Good way to say it…get ahead of those voices…so true!
      But when we stay vigilant, we can 🙂
      Sue

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  3. Great post Sue. How often the enemy uses our own good intentions to lead us down a path we were not meant to be on. The things on our “to-do” list may be good, or even great, but if we were not called by the LORD to be doing them they have no place in our lives.

    Easy concept to understand…hard sometimes to carry out.

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    • So true Angela! I have often missed the best plan because I gave in to a good one.
      Keeping my eyes on the prize to make the right choices 🙂
      Sue

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  4. Amen my friend…we have all struggled with those thoughts or some very similar to them, thanks for putting words to them and throwing them out in the open.

    Walking in His love…
    Melissa

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    • You know it sister!
      Love ya!

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      • That’s a ssenbile answer to a challenging question

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  5. This is a great article, Sue. I think this can apply to more even than women’s ministry but just being a Christian. We live in a culture that’s based on visible achievement and we’ve brought that into the church. I love that God leads us, and HE’s responsible for the outcome of what He calls us to do.

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    • You’re welcome Julie, thanks for leaving a note 🙂

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  6. I needed to hear this – in this way. Thank you, and bless you!

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    • Thanks Jen, can’t wait to meet you soon!
      Sue

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  7. Good words! It’s difficult to run a ministry. You’ve got not only the expectations of others, but your own of yourself. Being a person that wants approval, I struggle with myself more than anyone else. :o)

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    • I agree, I am my biggest critic too.
      We’ve got to remember ‘whose’ we are 🙂
      Love ya!
      Sue

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