Well ladies, I know I’ve talked a few times about the dangers of comparison and making sure that as ministry leaders we keep our hearts right, but today-for the first time– I want to touch on another side of the subject.
What if others are jealous of our ministry?
I hold Praise and Coffee Nights here in my hometown, and they attract a lot of women from all different churches and many who are un-churched. I love it! There is nothing so beautiful to me as to look out at a crowd of women sitting side by side, women that would rarely cross paths, and see them connect with and encourage one another.
However, not everyone is so thrilled. Recently another ministry gal in our area accused my leadership team of speaking badly about her ministry at our leader’s meetings. Now, normally I would get my girls together and find out what was going on and how we should deal with this. But there are two reasons I didn’t this time.
- I was at our last meeting and her ministry was not brought up.
- It is Spring and we haven’t even had a ministry meeting since last summer, so I know these claims are false.
A few people have contacted me about the situation and this woman’s feelings of being victimized by our ministry. And every one of them emphasizes that they see no actual foundation for her feelings, but this woman is actually jealous of the success of our events.
I don’t say this with any pride, Ladies. This is tragic. The fact that women would feel a sense of competition about ministry is completely backwards thinking. We’re all in this together. I may not agree with other leaders and styles, but if women are finding hope and peace through someone’s ministry, we should celebrate that, not be jealous of it.
Romans 12:18 says: If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
I’m so thankful that this verse says, “if it is possible, as far as it depends on you,” because sometimes these things are out of our hands. Not everyone is going to like us, and some will be jealous of us. I know that I used to deal with it in my own heart.
I’m also glad that it doesn’t say we have to live in “agreement.” Paul knew us better than that. Instead, the verse compels us to live at peace. Live free from conflict or anxiety. In other words, forgive and move on girls. Do what God’s called you to do. And always check your motives…are you building a ministry to make His name great or yours?
If your heart is to make His name great, you will not be threatened by any other ministry because you understand that we are all on the same team. We’re part of each other. But if someone is ugly to you and you suspect jealousy, pray for them. If it’s within your power, try to heal the conflict, but if not, lay it at the Lord’s feet and don’t let it become a distraction to you.
Let the Holy Spirit do His work and keep your heart open to reconciliation. All of us can take comfort knowing that we have a Savior who is familiar with our sense of pain and betrayal. Not one of us has perfected all the moves in this giant waltz of life. We’re all still stepping on toes all over the place. I’ve found I do much better if I let Jesus lead and settle into His arms as we sweep across the dance floor.
Father, I pray that You would help us to remember why we minister, that it’s all about You. Your glory, Your name. Lord, help us live at peace with one another and be motivated by love in all we do.