I was listening to the radio a few days ago and the radio host threw out the term, missionary dating.
Say What? I hadn’t heard this term. I must live under a rock at times.
The loose definition: Missionary dating is a phrase used in a Christian context to describe when a person of one religion dates a person with differing beliefs for the purpose of changing that person’s beliefs or religion.”
Synonymous phrases include “dating for Jesus” or “flirt to convert.” The concept of missionary dating is sometimes used to cover for or justify to one’s self, family, or religious community, romantic interest in a non-Christian if the relationship might otherwise be frowned upon.
I didn’t know that there was a term for dating a non-believer. This led me to think and ponder the question, are there believing Christians who are purposefully setting out to date an unbeliever with the idea that they will lead them to Christ?
You might guess I struggle with the concept of “missionary dating.” And it’s not like I don’t understand why young people want to embrace this idea.
I was once one of them.
When I met my husband, I knew he was an atheist. He was up front about his belief system and I was too. I had faith, weak faith, but I still believed in Jesus. But I was in love and convinced that if and when we married it would only be a short number of months before my man would “get it” and become saved.
That was over 20 years ago. My man remains an unbeliever.
So,you can see my skepticism with missionary dating.
I know this post will be unpopular with young people. This “old fashioned” message of adherence to 2 Corinthians 6:14 just doesn’t feel right. After all, don’t we serve an all-powerful God who can save anyone?
Yes we do!
But the journey is arduous and will demand more of you than you can imagine.
Today, I love my husband with a full heart. We are happy and thriving but the long and lonely years were not what my Heavenly Daddy wanted for me.
Thankfully, the Lord has brought me through the struggle but He did so that I may share the truth of what it’s really like to live unequally yoked. The biggest lesson I have learned in this is that God’s Word is indeed perfect and His commands are for our benefit and not to keep us from joy.
If you are dating an unbeliever and want an honest conversation about where you are and about your future, I would love to talk to you. I will not condemn. I will not judge. I will love on you like Jesus and share only what He has taught me.
If you are a mom or a youth worker with teens and pre-teens, I would count it a privilege to talk with your kids about dating. Just give me a shout out. My daughter and I teach a workshop on this very topic. It’s fun and filled with truth and inspiration that our Great God has a spouse chosen for your son or daughter.(email me)
Before I sign off today, take heart. God’s Word proves true and is all about living a joyful and happy life on this earth. We need only believe it and trust God to make it happen. That’s a promise.
Be embraced by the King this day. Hugs, Lynn
And for more encouragement for your marriage, visit me daily at spirituallyunequalmarriage.com. Hugs, Lynn