1 Samuel 1:27-28 “I prayed for this child, and the LORD has granted me what I asked of him.
So now I give him to the LORD. For his whole life he will be given over to the LORD.’
And he worshiped the LORD there.”
As my children have been growing into young adults, it has become more of a reality that I cannot MAKE them be godly. I am not capable of “raising godly children”… and I was never called to “raise godly children!”
As a parent I do not have the power to convert, save, sanctify, make them holy, or make them a disciple of Jesus. But I have been called to pray for them, be a godly person, and to do all that I can to take their hand and point them to God.
I can point them in the right direction and be a living example of God’s grace!
As a parent, this is what I CAN do:
- Proverbs 22:6, Deut. 6:7-9 I can teach my children….all the time. I need to ask God to help me see the teachable moments throughout the day.
- Titus 2:4-5 I can be an example to my children by loving and respecting my husband (in how I speak to him and how I treat him) , living in wisdom and purity (in word and deed) , and taking care of my home (meeting the needs of my family and keeping an orderly home).
- Proverbs 13:24, Proverbs 19:18, Proverbs 23:13-14, Prov. 22:15 I can discipline and instruct my children.
- Ephesians 6:4, Col. 3: 21 I need to discipline my children AND love my children. There should be a balance so that I do not discourage or provoke them. (Do not yell at them, be harsh, or give them the silent treatment. Always listen to them and discipline in a controlled way and in love. Don’t always tell them what they are doing wrong. Make sure that I am telling them what they are doing RIGHT!)
- Hebrews 10:25 I am instructed to not forsake fellowship with other believers. I need to make sure we are involved in a church body, and regularly living life with other believers. We need to learn how to function as the body of Christ. We need each other!
- Genesis 2:15 I need to work hard and teach them the importance of hard work
- 1 Timothy 4:12 I am called to be a godly example in speech, life, love, faith and purity.
- Psalm 34:8 I need to teach and show my children that Christianity is more than a list of rules but there is joy that comes from walking with and obeying God.
- Colossians 4:2 I am called to pray with and for my children.
- John 3:3 I am called to live the gospel and share the gospel with my children.
If I am not careful, I can “unconsciously” think that the way my children turn out rests solely on my shoulders. Whatever the outcome, this mindset will set me up for failure. If this is my train of thought, then if my children “turn out well“, I could become prideful, take the credit, and think I am the one responsible for their success (and look down on parents whose children are struggling!). If my children stumble or do not follow God, I could carry the burden of guilt on my shoulders, thinking it is all my fault. Even though no parent is perfect, and we can fail our children in many ways, ultimately God has to draw every person to Himself, and our children need to decide to follow Him. We cannot take the credit for our child’s conversion or his choice to go down the road of rebellion. But we do have a huge responsibility to do our part before God.
We need to know our place, know what we are called to, and pray for God’s grace to be godly faithful parents, for the glory of God alone.
No parenting program can guarantee godly children. Nothing we “do” can make them follow God. Our children’s greatest need is to hear and receive the gospel. But there are ways we can honor and obey OUR God , pointing our children to Him, and ultimately helping lead them TO God.
We are in this together. Why don’t you join me in focusing on God and His glory, so that our children can see His face in our lives and actions, and so He can use us to help in the process of Him drawing them to Himself.
What a privilege!!!
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