I Was Never Called to Raise “Godly Children!” and a GIVEAWAY

1 Samuel 1:27-28I prayed for this child, and the LORD has granted me what I asked of him.

So now I give him to the LORD. For his whole life he will be given over to the LORD.’

And he worshiped the LORD there.”

As my children have been growing into young adults, it has become more of a reality that I cannot MAKE them be godly.  I am not capable of “raising godly children”… and I was never called to “raise godly children!”

As a parent I do not have the power to convert, save, sanctify, make them holy, or  make them a disciple of Jesus. But I have been called to  pray for them, be a godly person, and to do all that I can to take their hand and point them to God.

I can point them in the right direction and be a living example of God’s grace!

As a parent, this is what I CAN do:

  • Proverbs 22:6Deut. 6:7-9 I can teach my children….all the time.  I need to ask God to help me see the teachable moments throughout the day.
  • Titus 2:4-5 I can be an example to my children by loving and respecting my husband (in how I speak to him and how I treat him) ,  living in wisdom and purity (in word and deed) , and taking care of my home (meeting the needs of my family and keeping an orderly home).
  • Proverbs 13:24Proverbs 19:18,  Proverbs 23:13-14, Prov. 22:15 I can discipline and instruct my children.
  • Ephesians 6:4Col. 3: 21 I need to discipline my children  AND love my children.  There should be a balance  so that I do not discourage or provoke them. (Do not yell at them, be harsh, or give them the silent treatment.  Always listen to them and discipline in a controlled way and in love. Don’t always tell them what they are doing wrong. Make sure that I am telling them what they are doing RIGHT!)
  • Hebrews 10:25 I am instructed to not forsake fellowship with other believers. I need to make sure we are involved in a church body, and regularly living life with other believers.  We need to learn how to function as the body of Christ.  We need each other!
  • Genesis 2:15 I need to work hard and teach them  the importance of hard work
  • 1 Timothy 4:12 I am called to be a godly example in speech, life, love, faith and purity.
  • Psalm 34:8 I need to teach and show my children that Christianity is more than a list of rules but there is joy that comes from walking with and obeying God.
  • Colossians 4:2 I am called to pray with and for my children.
  • John 3:3 I am called to live the gospel and share the gospel with my children.

If I am not careful, I can “unconsciously” think that the way my children turn out rests solely on my shoulders. Whatever the outcome, this mindset will set me up for failure.  If this is my train of thought, then if my children  “turn out well“, I could become prideful, take the credit,  and think I am the one responsible for their success (and look down on parents whose  children are struggling!).  If  my children stumble or do not follow God, I could carry the burden of guilt on my shoulders, thinking it is all my fault.  Even though no parent is perfect, and we can fail our children in many ways, ultimately God has to draw every person to Himself, and our children need to decide to follow Him.  We cannot take the credit for our child’s conversion or his choice to go down the road of rebellion.  But we do have a huge responsibility to do our part before God.

We need to know our place, know what we are called to, and pray for God’s grace to be godly faithful parents, for the glory of God alone.

No parenting program can guarantee godly children. Nothing we “do” can make them follow God. Our children’s greatest need is to hear and receive the gospel. But there are ways we can honor and obey OUR God , pointing our children to Him,  and ultimately helping lead them TO God.

We are in this together.  Why don’t you join me in focusing on God and His glory, so that our children can see His face in our lives and actions, and so He can use us to help in the process of Him drawing them to Himself.

What a privilege!!!



A book giveaway for YOU!!!!

Moms, do you need the inspiration to find God in the mess and the mundane that often defines you? Do you need to laugh and remember why you love being a mom? If so, this book is for you! Be inspired and refreshed as you ponder the fifty-two reflections written by a very human mom, encouraging you to celebrate in the everyday beauty of your life and grow closer to God through it all.

This week we are giving away two (2) copies of Kristen Welch’s new book, Don’t Make Me Come Up There! Kristen is the author of the very popular blog, We are THAT Family.

To learn more about Kristen’s book and her nonprofit, The Mercy House in Nairobi, Kenya, you can listen to her interview at the Grace Cafe here.

You can be entered up to four (4) times for this week’s Family Counter Giveaway.

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This week’s Family Counter Giveaway runs from today, April 18, 2011 through Friday, April 22, 2011. Two winners will be selected at random and announced on Monday, April 25, 2011.


  1. Such an AWESOME devotional for the moms of today…I know for me, this was much needed where I am and I am so happy to know I am not alone 🙂

    • Hi, Jenn! I am so thankful you were encouraged!!! So nice to “meet” you!

  2. Whoo-hoo! Love We Are THAT Family and would love to win this book. Thank you!

  3. This book sounds like something that I could really use right now. I’m a first time stay at home mom with a 2 year old, and was honestly just thinking about looking for a book to help.


  4. I’m just wondering how they got me on the cover of that book :o)

    Will be posting the link to this blog on my facebook as well as its such an important message to share!

  5. Sounds like a fantastic book! Would love to read it!!

  6. I would LOVE to win that book! I am a reader of We are THAT family. I love what they are doing! Thank you!

  7. A very close friend who is more like a sister recently had a serious stoke a day before her birthday. At age 38 she finds herself seeking the Lord all the more as she heals physically, mentally and spiritually. Its been almost two months the tragic event took place, I’ve watched her healing take place from the start. I left home to help care for her along with her daughters and ex-husband. Parenting two teens, a 6 year old and starting over after a divorce weighted pretty heavy on her. Yesterday we sat at the kitchen table and we talked about everything I just read in the above article. My friend has a strong desire to begin again and to parent more effectively during this time in her life. The direction her eldest child is going breaks her heart, they constantly bump heads. The middle child has one year left in high school and the last child is a busy bee… very loving children. I’ve learned a lot being here and I do not look forward to my three children becoming teens any time soon(laughing). This article is great and it made me feel 100 times better, I will share it with my sister and recommend the book if I don’t win it for her… She can use it for such a time ad this. Blessings to you.

    • Faith, THANK YOU SO MUCH for sharing that story! WOW! I will pray for your friend and for you as well. We are all so needful of God’s mercy, aren’t we??? And don’t worry about your kids being teens. God gives you the same grace to go through those years, as He gives you to go through the years your kids are little. Every season is hard and has it’s challenges. And God meet you there! I promise!!!

      Love to you my sister!!!

  8. Hello again,

    I just finished sharing this book with my friends and family on Facebook. Have a good night.

  9. Wow, what an absolutely amazing, convicting and incredibly encouraging post. I am printing this out to keep in front of me day in and day out. These are the desires of my heart as a parent and I look forward to taking time looking at each verse and taking time to reflect and pray. Thank you for your heart and sharing this wisdom.

    • Tracey,
      I am so thankful God has used this and you are encouraged. We need each other, don’t we!! Grace to you!!!

  10. It is so hard to stop myself from yelling at my children. That part really got to me. Thanks for opening up my mind and heart.


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