Stand Your Ground

My son loves to chase birds. When he sees them sweetly sitting there, he takes off into a sprint toward them. The birds instantly fly away as they see my son heading like a freight train in their direction. He divides the birds like the red sea, and he grins with a feeling of triumph.

One afternoon, I took my kids to the splash park. A single bird sat in the water enjoying herself immensely. My son ran toward her, but the bird didn’t budge; she didn’t even ruffle a feather. Her fearlessness caused my son to abruptly stop. The bird stood her ground, and my son walked away. I figured my son only enjoyed the chase-and-run game when the birds that cooperated.

God has been teaching me a lot about standing my ground. Many times I’m others-centered instead of God-centered, and I worry way too much what people think. If I have to make a decision that others don’t like, I show my fear, guilt and apprehension of their opinion concerning my decision. Unknowingly, others take this as a cue that I’m in the wrong and that their disapproval of my decision is justified.

I try to root all of my decisions in God, and, honestly, many people don’t like my choices. When I show my angst about my decision, I’m indicating that I approve of other people’s disapproval, and I reveal a lack of trust in God’s judgment. The impression I give is not fair to others or to me because it causes a bunch of negative undertones that wouldn’t be there if I were to simply take my insecurity out of my decision making.

I’m learning to be like that bird and stand my ground. Others see my sincerity (even if they don’t agree), and they back away. Plus, I’m not conflicted with emotional stress that my uncertainty causes. If God is the core of all that I do, I don’t have to worry about the waves that my life creates.

When Jesus lived, many people disagreed and misunderstood Him. But no one could doubt His sincerity. He never worried about what others thought because He was only concerned with what God thought. I want to be like Jesus. Even in the middle of complete chaos, I desire to be assured and confident with my God-aligned choices.

Do you have difficulty standing your ground? How does your indecision shape the behavior of others? What can you do to prevent yourself from worrying when others disagree with you?

Be on guard. Stand firm in the faith. Be courageous. Be strong.”  — (1 Corinthians 16.13, NLT)

Alisa Hope Wagner

Alisa Hope Wagner is aggressive about leading a simple life. She enjoys working out, reading, writing and communicating God’s love and truth. She married her high school sweetheart, and together they enjoy raising their children in a Christ-centered home. Though an introvert by nature, Alisa easily expresses herself through social media, especially on her blog. She has earned her B.A. Degree in English and her M.S. Degree in Applied English Linguistics, and she volunteered in women’s ministry leadership and life group ministry for her church. She trained in Mixed Martial Arts and won her bout by TKO! She has written her debut novel, Eve of Awakening, and has started the sequel, Bear Into Redemption.

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16 Comments

  1. Hi Alisa,

    Thanks for sharing an introspective post. I’m learning this aspect of trusting God that defines a consistency in my thoughts and behavior. Looking back over my life, I can see how thoughts of What would_____think if my decision was unexpected, different or favorable? I can see how this also carried over into my life when I became a Christian. I’m beginning to understand that God wasnt me to trust Him with my life to the extent that I don’t weigh the outcome first before choosing what I should do.

    Thanks for sharing a post that provoked thoughts and allows me to take an honest look at myself.

    Blessings and peace.

    MTJ

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  2. Standing your ground is SO hard sometimes – but like you, I want to be like Jesus that way. Thank you for this reminder.

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  3. I’ve been going through that sometimes difficult process of saying ‘no’ in order to say ‘yes’ to something better. Learning to stand my ground and not make excuses for it, or feel guilty about it.

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  4. Oh how I can relate to the words written here. For many years I served man and thought I was doing the right thing, but the inner conflict exposed the trap that had been set for me. I now seek to please the one who has set me free! And freeing it is!….to know that it’s ok to disagree and that I don’t have to make everyone happy! 🙂 I must be about my Fathers business.

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  5. I love this article, standing your ground is difficult to do! I have finally learned a bit at 50, to say no more. I agree with you, we do need to care about what God thinks!

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  6. Sometimes I second guess and third guess myself…waffling…may as well pour syrup…

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  7. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! 🙂

    God Bless

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  8. Was this article timely for me! 🙂 Thanks for sharing about the importance of standing your ground.

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  9. I have a friend who taught his class ‘right is right even when no one else is doing it and wrong is wrong even when everyone else is doing it’ Thanks for the beautiful article.

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  10. Hi Alisa –

    Wow! This spoke to me. Thank you. When I’d second guess myself, my late husband would say, “No is a complete sentence.”

    Blessings,
    Susan 🙂

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  11. It’s always tough for me as well. I crave the approval of others as well. Need to get my focus back on Jesus. Thanks for the reminder.

    Blessings,
    Janis

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  12. Isn’t it amazing how God teaches us such deep spiritual things from observing nature? That is if we slow down and let Him.

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  13. Looking only to God and standing on the ground He has given me is something my heart is seeking to do. I think part of the standing is claiming that land. There is always something trying to chase us away. This bird wants what God has planned. b

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  14. That is so true! We should only seek God’s approval in all situations!

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  15. This is a great post! It really reminds us how we should not worry about what others think, especially when it comes to our faith. Thanks!

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