Size Doesn’t Matter

It’s not the size of the group you’re leading that has impact as much as the size of your heart for them.

Who needs another BIG event that lacks the life-changing power of relationship?

But if we’re honest, most of us in leadership would have to admit that we’ve struggled when the size of the group God has called us to lead seems small.

Many of the memorable accounts of Jesus have to do with Him touching one life at a time. The woman at the well, Zacchaeus, the woman who crawled through the crowd and Peter…oh Peter.  Lessons shown to one but changing the lives of so many.

Let me encourage you not to be frustrated if God is keeping your impact to just a few right now.

There’s a great quote from the movie You’ve Got Mail (one of my absolute favorites!), where Meg Ryan’s character says:

“Whatever else anything is, it ought to begin by being personal.”

So true! It’s hard to be personal in a large group. Don’t despise opportunities to be personal with one another.

I started Praise and Coffee Nights in my community with the idea of connecting women with each other and with God outside the four walls of church. It’s been such a blast. Women are loving a night out with other women, and our evenings have grown considerably with new faces each week. I love it, but I struggle to create a more intimate atmosphere in the midst of such a large group.

I think there are benefits to both large and small groups, but the large ones will struggle to keep it personal and connected with one another.

So often I talk to women who lead Bible studies, seminars or even Praise and Coffee Nights, and they are frustrated at the low numbers of women that come out to their events. Unfortunately, this can often come from our own insecurities as we look at our small groups as a form of rejection. Sadly, we can relate the size of our group to our own self-worth.

This is so dangerous, ladies. If we feel better about ourselves because we have a large group, we really need to check our hearts. Pride causes us to puff up with a large group AND also is the cause of our disappointment with a small group.

Phil 2:3 Don’t be selfish; don’t live to make a good impression on others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourself. NLT

I’m saying this from experience. I’ve been there and don’t ever want to go back to that. I have let my whole identity and worth get wrapped up in what I was DOING and not who I was BEING.

I need to say something to you. *lean in please*

“It’s not about you…or me. It never has been and never should be.”

It’s about Him.

It’s about His love for others.

It’s about making His name great, not ours.

If one person shows up to your next event, grab her hand, hug her neck and start talking, sister! It won’t be long before you realize what God is up to when you just give Him a chance to be God.

Matt 18:20

“For where two or three gather together because they are mine, I am there among them.”  NLT

The size of group you’re called to lead does not matter. What matters is your heart, your commitment, your character.

Lay it all down, girlfriends. You might need to put that ministry He gave you on an altar and offer it back to Him. It’s His anyway. Chances are, that act of worship will be all that’s needed for God to pour new life and love into it.

Sue Cramer

Founder of Praise and Coffee ministry and Magazine. A wife, mom, girlfriend and coffee drinker who loves the Lord.

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  1. Such a wonderful post.

  2. You are so right. Some how we’ve gotten it into our heads that the bigger the group the more successful the ministry. You are so right that it’s about HIM and not us. Great post Sue and such an important reminder!

  3. Oh, Sue. I needed this. TODAY. Been thinking about dropping something in particular because of low participation – but God used you to encourage me to press on. MY attitude.Got it 😀

  4. I have heard you say this over and over and over and I have seen this acted out in your life on a daily basis. Love this about you! And that you like You’ve Got Mail…one of the few movies I have memorized. 🙂 Thanks for writing from your heart to the heart of the matter.

  5. Even Jesus didn’t reach any more when the crowd was large. If He could, he would have had 200 disciples instead of 12.

  6. Thanks Sue! This is SO true!!! It is so NOT about us and when God sets you from thinking that it is you begin to see the women, their lives, and their needs. You want it for them more than yourself. Keep speaking His Truth into our lives. It is valuable and we all need it!

  7. This is so true and I really believe the best way to GROW:) (In our hearts and those who follow:)

  8. Hi Sue…

    Such wisdom and your are so right. Thank you for such encouraging words my friend. Hugs.

  9. When my husband and I went on the mission field 11 years ago, the best piece of advice we received was, “Just remember, you build a church one person at a time.”

  10. This post is HUGEly needed in our world today. Just goes to show how a small message can make a huge difference. 😉

  11. This is a great word of encouragement and admonishment. Thank you for the precious reminder!



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